6 Reasons You're Not Finding The Right Guy

There are various factors that can sabotage your quest for the perfect man. Read through our review of 6 reasons you're not finding the right guy. Follow a few helpful tricks on how to boost your chances to date only the most precious cuties. 

Dating is the first step towards finding a boyfriend. However, some get sick and tired of unfortunate dates when you get to meet guys who have nothing in common with you. 

In order to pick the ideal partner like a real love guru, it is important to consider the following 6 reasons you're not finding the right guy. Analyze your behavior and expectations to find out whether it would be more appropriate to make small adjustments to the profile of the ONE. 




No.1 Listen to Your Heart Not to What Others Say

Don't let yourself be influenced by what your friends and family say. In the majority of cases, you'll forget about your own standards and needs in order to please others. It's time to listen to your heart and don't make compromises if you don't want to. Stick to your principles and your confidence will definitely attract the right guys.

No.2 Your Hopes and Standards Are Set Too High

Are you puzzled about the future of your love life? Then it is worth lamenting on your standards and hopes when it comes to the ideal man. 

Those girls who look for prince charming might not find the real deal on this planet. Stay realistic and think about the qualities as well as the vices of the man you want to share your life with. Be prepared for various situations to know how to react.

No.3 Low Self-Esteem

If you don't feel comfortable in your skin, men will definitely notice it. The ultimate solution to your flirting and dating dilemmas is to start loving your body and feel free to play up your best assets. 

Participate on a training or let others help you win back your confidence. Self-esteem is important to turn yourself into an attractive and sensual woman. Receive compliments like a real diva.

No.4 Stay Natural

Guys have a keen eye on spotting what's fake and what's real on a girl. Skip using loads of makeup to change the color of your skin or use other radical methods to create the impression of a flawless body. Instead, stay natural and let your beauty skills guide you through the fabulous pre-date makeover. Your date partner will definitely appreciate your intention to show him your real look.

No.5 Keep Your Role as a Woman

Being overconfident and feminist are the worst qualities no man can appreciate. In a relationship it is important to keep your role as a woman. Let your loved one do his duties and what he knows best. Don't interfere unless you're able to adopt a humble attitude. The secret to make your boyfriend feel comfortable in this relationship is to let him protect and pamper you.

No.6 Don't Be Too Pushy

At the beginning of your relationship it would be a HUGE mistake to make long-term decisions and commitments. Instead, enjoy the blooming phase and spare your cutie from the pressure of marriage and other terrifying subjects. Spontaneity teamed up with a relaxed attitude towards your relationship will guarantee the long-lasting future of this strong love bond. Stick to your own social life and hang out with your friends to flaunt your independent side.

8 Things You Should Never Say To Your Husband

1. You’re just like your father.

 

According to Womansday.com and many psychologists, this is a cruel way of poking at your husband's fear that he exhibits the worst traits of his father. He wants to be his own man!

2. When are you going to find a new job?

 

According to a leading marriage psychologist, a man evaluates himself partially on how he can take care of his family. Pestering him about when he is going to venture into the job hunt is akin to insulting his ability to take care of you and his children.

3. My mother warned me you’d do this!

 

This can be interpreted as ganging up on your spouse; by bringing your mother into the argument, you are establishing that there are others on your side of the issue, and that he is outnumbered. 

4. Just leave it––I’ll do it myself!

 

This can hurt your husband doubly, because it takes away from his ability to take care of his family, and it insinuates that he can't do something right - even something as simple as cleaning up or washing the dishes.

5. You always... [fill in the blank] or You never... [fill in the blank]

 

This sets the stage for a dramatic argument. When using generalizations like 'always' and 'never', the argument is usually untrue, and indicates that your husband doesn't give even a modest effort. This makes it easy for insults to be flung back and forth, especially once he realizes he can cite examples of times when those generalizations weren't true. (Remember last week! I did pick up the kids...take out the trash...etc.)

6. Do you really think those pants are flattering?

 

This kind of comment is hurtful, because it implies that he's putting on weight. Plus, it shows superficiality in the relationship. Why are you worried about the way he looks, rather than his health if he really is gaining weight?

7. Ugh, we’re hanging out with him again?

 

No one likes to be told who to be friends with, and your husband is no exception. It insults his choice in friends, which indirectly insults him. Why not say: You know, I don't always like to do what you and your friends do. Maybe you two can have a guys' night out?

8. Please watch the kids. But don’t do this, take them here or forget that...

 

Don't make him afraid to be a dad. Shooting down his efforts by questioning his judgment like this is a sure-fire way to motivate him to NOT be a dad, rather than the other way around. You want him to be a partner in parenting, but what you might not realize is that you don't give him a chance. Sure, you're a nervous Mom, but a little trust can keep a marriage with kids going strong.

5 Signs He Is the Right One For You

Sign #1 He Is the Right One – You Respect One Another

When it comes to figuring out if he is the right one, respect should be at the top of the list. Respect is also something that should go both ways. He should respect you and you should respect him, in turn.

You can tell he respects you when:

• He is willing to compromise
• He listens to your concerns and feelings
• He notices when something is wrong and asks you about it
• He values your opinion
• He appreciates you
• He is genuinely happy for you when you succeed

Sign #2 He Is the Right One – He Has the Qualities You’re Looking For

Ideally, you should know ahead of time what qualities are important to you in a mate. Trying to figure it out after the fact can lead to serious problems. If you have a good idea of the qualities you are looking for—the ones that are the most important—it will help you determine if he is the right one.

It helps to write a list. Select at least 10 qualities you are looking for in a man. Put that list in the order of importance. Take a serious look at the list and cross off any qualities that aren’t so important. Some qualities are probably negotiable. If that is the case, they can likely be removed from the list. The idea is to get down to at least the top 5 non-negotiable qualities that you are looking for.

Sign #3 He Is the Right One – You Share the Same Values

What do you value most? What values make up the life you have chosen to live? These are important questions to ask yourself, as they will help determine if he is the right one for you. Values are usually in-line with those non-negotiable items that will give you a clue as to whether or not he is the right one. If you don’t share the same values, consider that to be a red flag.

Sign #4 He Is the Right One – Your Intuition Tells You

Your intuition—your gut—should never be ignored. At the same time, it should never be THE deciding factor. Your intuition should serve as a guide, something you rely on when considering whether or not he is the right one.

Intuition is more than just how physically attracted you are towards him. It goes beyond that to a place deep inside where you just seem to “know.” It’s usually just a sense or a feeling that this person is the right one.

Sign #5 He Is the Right One – You Can Be Yourself With Him

You will not be appreciated or valued by a man who tries to change you or who cannot love you, flaws and all. So if you can be who you are when you are with him, he might just be the right one for you. This means he not only accepts the good in you, but also your weaknesses and faults. When you can be yourself, you will experience a sense of freedom. You will have confidence in knowing that he accepts you just as you are.

When taking these 5 signs into consideration, you will have a good idea if he is actually the right guy for you.

Warning! 7 Lies All Women Tell Men

Let me start by being completely, um, honest. Every once in a while, we ladies have been known to play a little fast and loose with the truth around you guys. Believe me, we do it with the purest of intentions (really!). And rather than try to change us, your best bet—for keeping your woman happy and your sanity intact—is to simply recognize what’s going on and be smooth about it. With that in mind, here are seven lies we commonly tell men, and how to handle them. Just trust me on this stuff, OK?

1. “Give me your completely honest opinion…”

 Now would be a good time to fake a heart attack.

2. “I’m fine. Really.” 

 Hint: if there are tissues involved, she’s probably not fine.   

3. “I’ve slept with X number of guys.”

 Way to go, buddy! You picked the perfect shade for that wall.

4. “Yeah, that was GREAT. I totally got off.”

 

“What is it, honey? I promise to work harder on my pecs!”

5. Oh my God, I LOVE sports!

Just in it for the buffalo wings, we’re guessing

 

6. “Sure, go out and have a guys’ night!”

 

Her worst nightmare: you having fun without her.

7. “I’ve never cheated on anyone.”

  She’s not cheating. They’re just really good arm-wrestling buddies.

 

The Top 5 Traits Women Want in a Man

77%
1. Sense of Humor
Being able to laugh at the stresses of this world is a must, according to the women on our panel. You get bonus points if you can make them laugh. Humor tells a woman that you can laugh at—read, handle easily—the many difficulties that life throws at you.

55%
2. Intelligence
A worldy, interesting man is a man she likes to show off. Men who are take-charge problem solvers make women feel secure, and men who are always improving are never boring.

46%
3. Passion
Why have women always melted for musicians? Because rock stars are passionate in public. Women like displays of passion because they're not accustomed to seeing them from men. Get passionate about something: kayaking, impressionistic art, barbecuing, or Habitat for Humanity. It's proof that you care for and about something beyond yourself.

41%
4. Confidence
A man who feels secure in his own skin makes the woman he's with feel secure. By showing you can handle unfamiliar people or situations, you tell the woman in your life that she need not fear, either.

38%
5. Generosity
This is more important to women over 35 than it is to those under that age. Generosity, however, doesn't just mean springing for dinner at a four-star. Your willingness to give your time and lend your ear is what women crave.

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